“A mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires. To Inspire – you have to walk your talk.”
Sometimes we forget the essence of real leadership, parenting and teaching others is to BE what you want others to become.
A sad lady once came over to me while I was grieving a sad loss put her arm around my shoulders and gave me support. At the end of it, she felt better.
I think the essence of inspiration is found in the following quote:
“Do not take life too seriously or you will not get out of it alive.” – Elbert Hubbard
“Life is not measured by the breaths you take, but rather the moments that take your breath away.” – Unknown
My experience is that disappointment is what knocks most people for six, or out of the ball park at least. Something, often quite small hits us and for some unknown reason, like a punch that lands in our solar plexus, the wind goes out of our sails, but really, 99% of what happens in our day has nothing to do with what we’re feeling. Let me explain:
We create routine, comfort zones from which most people complain about the world and try to be happy. I call it the “golden bubble” but really it’s the golden triangle like Bermuda, it’s where stuff is really going on.
So, something happens in the world around us, and it hits us hard, but really, what happened was that it burst our bubble. Our golden comfort zone of “it’s safe in here as long as I can blame the world (and my family) isn’t really safe.
And nor do we really want it to be because the essence of success is not boredom and safety. It’s life.
“I waited for success but it was too long coming so I went ahead anyway”
Disappointment is one of the most spiritual of experiences. First it demonstrates where reality and myth collide, reality always winds and is, in fact perfect. Second, disappointment always affects us because we fail to see the gift in the adaptation it causes, and this adaptation is always, 100% of the time, better than the original.
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein
So, these kicks in the guts are not so much reflective of a single even in our life but more an accumulation of frustration and tension trying to resist change. We try to avoid confessions like: “I don’t love my job like I used to” or “I don’t love my partner as much as I used to” and as we sink to compromised positions we hope and pray we’ll never be found out for it – but we do.
“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.” – Oscar Wilde
You see, the key to all this is your vibe. There are people who are magnets to trouble, “what you fear comes near” – “what you judge you create, attract or become” and there are people who have a higher vibe, they may not have the drama, the uppers or the downers you have, but whatever they attract, they keep.
“This above all, to thine ownself be true.”
Our vibe is determined by four essential states of consciousness. That’s why, at Innerwealth we claim “Positive Personal Change through Higher Consciousness” and those four states are
Kindness – The Ability to give people the benefit of the doubt
Generosity – The Ability to see the two sides in everything
Compassion – The Ability to put yourself in other people’s shoes
Appreciation – The determination to do no harm.
These four principles are the principles of nature and if we give our cleverness a rest, and reach for the courage to be real they flow naturally.
We have this opportunity to be the change we want others to achieve. Simply by being real.
Your thoughts are the film, your attitude the projector, your love the light. Life is the screen.
“Photography is truth. The cinema is truth twenty-four times per second.” ~ Jean-Luc Godard