“The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but how we respond to them. ~Tom Crum
The saga of our life requires each person to deal with larger-than-life challenges, some of which are of epic proportions. Your grief healing saga is unique and personal. You are invited to not just read quickly but to consider deeply and intensely the following nine saga challenges:
1-Resolve to manage your healing efforts with compassion.
Many dwell in the “someday” world – but when you live in someday, finding new purpose is never fulfilled. You waste time if today is not the day. Many will seize it. Many will live today to the fullest. Why not you! Give yourself your utmost compassion – only you can do so to meet your purpose and needs.
2- Resolve to share your story.
“Old people used to say that a burden shared is a burden halved. Similarly, when you allow your heart to speak, the burdens it carries diminish, a new lightness enters your body, and relief floods to the heart.” ~John O’Donahue
Tell your grief story often for there is healing in talking about your loss and sorrow. Write it down, share it. Sharing your misery helps diminish your grief and brings relief.
3-Resolve to take action and not be inactive in your efforts.
“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.” ~Leonardo da Vinci
Facing awful grief can send you on a permanent detour. You may feel confused, angry, and both helpless and hopeless. Facing square-on the actions you choose should not be delayed!
4-Resolve to be more inspired and resourceful.
“If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.” ~Zig Zigler
Seek for every avenue, every possibility for all helpful sources to help overcome your grief and heal. From those must-have tips determine how to use them efficiently.
“Inspiration The body becomes what the foods we eat are, just as the spirit becomes what are thoughts we think are.” ~Unknown
Be practical about the inspiration you receive and the thoughts you entertain. Don’t forget prayer as one more source of inspiration.
5-Resolve to manage your time efficiently.
“This is the key to time management – to see the value of every moment.” ~Menachem Mandel
Your thoughts are ongoing occurrences! As your thoughts become settled beliefs, they begin to frame your life. That is why it is essential that you choose your thoughts wisely. Don’t waste time manage it.
6-Resolve to manage your expectations and opportunities.
“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.” ~Henry David Thoreau
Dream of a happier life, a whole life, a life of hope and peace. Consider new expectations. Look for opportunities. Start today and continue.
7-Resolve to develop the abilities and skills you need to reconcile your grief and loss.
After experiencing unwanted and terrible grief the most important threshold is learning to understand your grief, heal. Finding new purpose and happiness is going from “I can’t” to “I can.”
8-Resolve to think healthy beneficial thoughts.
“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” ~Proverbs 25:28
The foregoing scripture proposes strongly we are responsible for the success or failure of our lives; it suggests – change your mind – change your life! Moreover, your life is three in one – body, soul, and spirit. The body becomes what foods we eat, just as the spirit becomes what our thoughts are that we think. You determine the outcome. Someone once said: “Whatever you think about the most, that’s your God.”
Perhaps, all have been challenged by periods in life’s happenings where they get trapped, controlled by unhealthy detours and challenges of life. Yet, negative thoughts continued in your daily thought pattern will delay positive changes in your life.
9-Resolve to create an amazing life.
Once you clearly realize the dreams you have, the horizon stretches to once what seemed unobtainable possibilities, that will start to clarify and focus before you.
“With most serious challenges encountered, that cause significant grieving, as we insist on getting an immediate perfect resolution the one and only answer – we are utterly paralyzed by the complexity and size of the problem. A better answer may be to accept gradual imperfect solutions as you act upon taking small steps and move toward grief relief.” ~Duane H. Marchant
Remember, your thoughts can become beliefs that alter your life, can you see how vitally important they are? Resolve is a mind action word. Creating requires resolve and personal actions.
Your grief saga should also include certain rights:
First, the right to experience your personal unique grief.
As you receive assistance from others don’t allow them to tell you how you should feel. All grief is personally unique; don’t try to compare your sorrow and loss with others. It is far better to try and understand your grief and find new happiness.
Second, the right to tell your story. Talk about your grief as often as you wish; talking will help you heal.
Third, the rights to examine your emotional and physical limits.
Respect what your mind and body tell you. Respect what your mind and body tell you. Your grief experience may have left permanent limitations which you must to which you may need to accept and adjust.
Fourth, the right to examine and embrace your spirituality.
In times of terrible grief, you may find an additional need to seek God more fervently. If you are angry at God it will be important for you to get new understanding and inspiration. When was the last time you poured your heart out to God?
Fifth, you have the right to stop grieving and start healing.
Neither you or someone near you can alter the permanent condition that is yours forever. The healing is in the reconciling your grief and loss, and that takes time. Remember, the body becomes what foods we eat, just as the spirit becomes what our thoughts are that we think. You can start healing now.