How To Be Alone



A video by fiilmaker, Andrea Dorfman, and poet/singer/songwriter, Tanya Davis.

Davis wrote the beautiful poem and performed in the video which Dorfman directed, shot, animated by hand and edited. The video was shot in Halifax, Nova Scotia and was produced by Bravo!FACT http://www.bravofact.com/

For more information on Tanya, go to http://www.tanyadavis.ca or visit her facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/pages/Tanya-Davis/8063194647?ref=sgm You can purchase her first two CDs Make A List and Gorgeous Morning on iTunes and look out for her third CD which will be released in the fall!

For more information on Andrea Dorfman, visit her facebook page http://www.facebook.com/pages/Andrea-Dorfman-Films/110789945626226?ref=mf or http://www.andreadorfman.com

This video was shot on a Panasonic HVX 200 and the animation was hand drawn+painted and then scanned into Adobe After Effects, exported as QTs and edited on FCP.

HOW TO BE ALONE by Tanya Davis

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.

We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library. Where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books. You’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.

There’s also the gym. If you’re shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors, you could put headphones in (guitar stroke).

And there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places.

And there’s prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you’re hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.

Start simple. Things you may have previously (electric guitar plucking) based on your avoid being alone principals.

The lunch counter. Where you will be surrounded by chow-downers. Employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town and so they — like you — will be alone.

Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.

When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for dinner. A restaurant with linen and silverware. You’re no less intriguing a person when you’re eating solo dessert to cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger. In fact some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.

Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.
And then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching…because, they’re probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating, and beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things, down your back like a brook of blessings.

Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.
Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there’re always statues to talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might’ve never happened had you not been there by yourself

Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. but lonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.

You could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther for the endless quest for company. But no one’s in your head and by the time you translate your thoughts, some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept.

Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school’s groaning were tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cuz if you’re happy in your head than solitude is blessed and alone is okay.

It’s okay if no one believes like you. All experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be releived, keeps things interesting lifes magic things in reach.

And it doesn’t mean you’re not connected, that communitie’s not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it. take silence and respect it. if you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it. if your family doesn’t get you, or religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it.

you could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it
If your heart is bleeding make the best of it
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

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37 thoughts on “How To Be Alone

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I found this video years ago. I owe my ability to go places alone and feel happy doing so, to this poem. I have shared it with so many others who ask me, "how do you do things alone all the time, I would be so anxious" and I always send them this video. Beautiful poem, Tanya. Thank you.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    Thank you so much for writing and performing this. About to ask a girl to homecoming, but needed a reminder– even if she says no, I'll be alright with just being me. 🙂

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I think with all the technology in the world, everyone will eventually be truly lonely.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    It's difficult to acknowledge, but the truth is we all have to be alone sometimes. We are born alone, and we will die alone. But that's okay – we just need to be peaceful about it.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I didn't choose the single life, the single life chose me.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    Ive come back to this video over the years. I remember im high school when i found this, it made me cry. It still brings tears to my eyes to this day as a 21 year old. Thank you for creating this piece. It really helps.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I remember watching this video when it first came out in 2010. it had barely any views. now it has a bunch of comments and likes. I also remember the YouTuber replying to my comment. I forgot what it was about but this memory brought me back here

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I am alone. I have more peaceful life. I don't compare myself to other people. I am not sad. I love nature. I love to sit under a tree and reading books. I love to listen to chirping of birds and to sounds of the leaves swaying with the wind.

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    this video put a smile on my face this morning. I guess it is okay to be alone. thank you

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    The company of most people becomes irksome and tiring. I'm in my own world when alone, no commitments, doing as I please. As Thoreau said "I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude."

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    I am one of those people who has to be out and doing something ALL THE TIME. But I only have a few friends so thats not always possible. I've decided at 27 that this is the year I get comfortable doing things on my own. Waiting around for a friend to do something with you is pointless.

    I'm gonna start this week by going to coffee shop and park 🙂 Thank you for this video xx

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  • September 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm
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    This is a little idiotic….( how to be alone)…. well,,, just get away from people….and aggressive animals….THAT IS IT…. no degree needed to figure it out…

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